A judgmental thought happens because of our own insecurities and limited beliefs. Constantly encouraging judgmental thoughts about people and situations creates enormous anxiety, depression and stress.
It is not an easy task to respond to situations non-judgmentally. It also does not mean that you have to have a positive view. Non-judgment is simply about acknowledging the circumstances and feelings without engaging in opinions and evaluations.
All judgments arise from our past experiences and belief systems about perfection that we gathered from our families, society, education or religion. Perfection is a myth. The basis of life is imperfection.
Imperfection helps us to strive to live boldly, wildly and uncertainly. Imperfection creates opportunities to grow, evolve and find grander solutions. Imperfection supports life, perfection is death. Only that which is dead has no cause to continue to create or evolve.
The beauty of life is all its twists, turns, bends, ups and downs. They create grand opportunities for us to test our capability as great creator beings. Understanding and accepting imperfection is freedom. Accepting and getting excited to try your capability because of an imperfection is the journey of life.
In this life’s journey if we bring in judgment to imperfection then we get into stress and depression and forget to live life as the capable beings that we are. You just have to give up on being perfect and start doing things spontaneously as a response to life’s journey and move on. Just continue to love yourself, trust your capability, become excited of all the opportunities/imperfections that life brings your way to help you to constantly become the next higher version of yourself.
Never be afraid of imperfection, imperfection is freedom and growth. It is freeing to accept and live as humans with all our beautiful imperfections. The moment we first stop judging and accepting ourselves, we find that we are able to accept the imperfections in others. Our accepting will then help them to accept themselves.
Imagine a world where every one accepts themselves and each other, it will be one beautiful place free of unhappiness, gloom, worry or anxiety.
As I write these thoughts, I am reminded of this amusing Zen story of two monks.
The Zen story of the Muddy Road:
Tanzan and Ekido were once travelling together down a muddy road. A heavy rain was still falling.
Coming around a bend, they met a lovely girl in a silk kimono and sash, unable to cross the intersection.
“Come on, girl,” said Tanzan at once. Lifting her in his arms, he carried her over the mud.
Ekido did not speak again until that night when they reached a lodging temple. Then he no longer could restrain himself. “We monks don’t go near females,” he told Tanzan, “especially not young and lovely ones. It is dangerous. Why did you do that?”
“I left the girl there,” said Tanzan. “Are you still carrying her?”
Let us contemplate on this, ‘life is growth and evolvement.’ A seed has to grow into a tree, a caterpillar has to grow into a butterfly, life is constant growth. Judgmental thoughts stop growth and evolvement. Judgmental thoughts keep one stuck and remain stagnant. It is important to live simply, let go past stories, and spontaneously respond to life with noble thoughts, words and deeds. Every situation is an opportunity to help one to understand their capability and evolve into their grander self.

May we give the gift of appreciation for ourselves and others as we move through this beautiful life journey!


Premlatha Rajkumar

© PRajkumar, 2021

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